Welcome to MMO couples

Every one who is familiar with MMOG's (massive multiplayer online games), knows the stories of people who are so addicted to playing these games that it costs them their real life friendships and relationships. There are also stories though of people who meet in a MMOG and fall in love, like my boyfriend and I. 'MMO couples' is a tribute to our lovestory, but also an invitation to share your story and experiences with others.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

For those who move for love: some tips

This post is not only handy for people who plan to move to another country to live with their cute Gnome Mage or courageous Blood Elf Paladin, but for anyone who plans to move to another country, for what ever reason. But since this is a blog about MMO relationships, we just pretend it is only for those who move for love :)

Like I have written in one of my earlier posts, all you want is to get to the significant other as soon as possible. Because of that, you might not have a clear overall view of what you need to know in general concerning moving to another country, and what you can/should do in advance. I certainly wished I had thought of some things before I moved; would have saved me a lot of headaches and frustration. But I had to find out the hard way. So based on my experiences, I have have written down some tips to help you out. At least those of you who are EU-citizens. But I am sure that people living elsewhere can get some valuable information out of it as well.

Before I start with the list, be aware of the fact that you will leave family and friends behind. Can you handle this? Will you be able to visit them from time to time, or they you? If a beloved one is having problems, you can't simply go and see him or her. You can't go out for a drink with your friends whenever you feel like it. This is something you need to think through very thoroughly. Eventhough you will be with the one you love, you can still feel very loney.

Another thing you need to realize, is that you will have to start from scrap. Not only do you most likely need to learn a new language and invest time in building up a new circle of friends, you also need to build up a new life for yourself and find a fulfilment. Once you have thought these things through and still want to take the exciting chance and move to the one you love, you should try and arrange a few things in advance:

1. Have your diploma's translated and legalized. For some countries you need a Apostille stamp on your diploma, which is given by a court of law. I suggest to get the stamp anyways: in my case, the information I got in Austria told me that I did not need the stamp. In Holland though, they said the stamp was needed... It will cost you only a few extra euro's. The translation is probably the most expensive part and needs to be done by an offical translator.

2. Find out what is needed to be allowed to work in the country where you are moving to. For people moving from one EU-country to another it is easy: you need a valid pasport and you need to be registrated in the city you are going to live in.

3. Prepare your resume (in English at least).

4. If you have a job and will quit it: try and get a letter of recommendation (in English). Might make it easier for you to get a job in the new country.

5. If you have the possibility to do this, I strongly suggest to already look and apply for jobs in the country you are moving to, before you are there. It is not uncommon that companies do a job interview by telephone if they know you are not living there yet.

6. Find out what is needed if you want to study or continue the study you are already following in your home country.

7. Get 2 forms from the organisation where you have your health/social insurance: E 104 and E 301.

- The E 104 is needed to get a new health insurance in the country you are moving to. It shows that you have been insured in your home country.

- The E 301 is needed if you are unlucky with finding a job (or losing one) and can get unemployment money. In Austria for instance, the office handling the unemployment money and taking over your health insurance, want this form as a proof to see how many years you have worked in your home country and that your former employers had insured you. Better to have that already in your possesion before you move, than having to wait for it once you really need it.

8. What are you going to do with your personal belongings: will you take them with you, and if so: how? I was very lucky that my father could arrange to have my stuff brought over to Vienna. It might be quite expensive if you do not know someone who can help you with that.

9. Maybe a silly tip, but a tip none the less: if you fly over, buy a retour ticket. It is usually cheaper than a one-way ticket.

10. Don't forget to unregister in your home town and ask for a print out.

Once you have arrived, register at the town hall and arrange your health/social insurance as soon as possible.

Don't postpone looking for a position or start studying. Especially when it comes to work: the longer you wait, the harder it will be. Also, do not expect you will be working on the same level as you did in your home country. Of course, if you speak the language fluently and have the right diploma's, your chances to find something that fits your working profile are good. But if that is not the case, you should be aware that you might end up having a job you have not studied for.
It can also be that your diploma's are not worth what they are in your home country, which could mean you are expected to follow a course before you can work in your field.

The best way to get to know people and make new friends, is to do a language course. This way you kill two birds with one stone. You will most likely meet people there who also moved to be with someone, which in addition to not knowing the language, creates a connection.

And last but not least: enjoy finally being together! \o/

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1 comment:

Elory said...

Really helpfull! Im not moving over yet and maybe my loved one is moving over here. But all this information together helps making the move a bit less stressfull to organize. Its hard to find any of this information on the internet :(